Tyler asked me today-"why do you and dad have sex all the time?" That completely caught me off guard. I was really shocked that he would ask me that because I didnt know his little ears ever heard that word before- I have not discussed the birds and the bees with him cuz he is 5- much too young to worry about THAT conversation, and Daniel and I certainly dont use that word when the kids are around, and they dont ever watch TV, so its not from that, and the movies they watch are all animated and they certainly dont bring up that word/subject. So where the fetch did my little Toast hear that word. I asked him if he knew what that word meant. He said, "no, but Kylie told me you and dad have sex all the time." I really didnt know what to say to him, so I told him that word is a grown up word and that it when he gets a little bigger, daddy will tell him more about it. He replies, "But I already am big. He can tell me now." I corrected myself and told him I meant OLDER AND WISER, and left it at that.
Until Kylie came home. I very casually asked her about her comment to Tyler. She said, "well, (enter friends name) told me her mom and dad have sex all the time, so I knew you and daddy do too." I asked her if her friend happened to tell her what that means. She said, " kissing?" To my relief my little daughter is still innocent. So I told her the same thing I told Tyler- thats its a grown-up thing, and that when she gets a little older we can talk about it, but in the mean-time its best not to go around talking about that with her friends.
So I have a question- at what age do parents talk to their kids about that stuff? Isnt 1st grade MUCH too young for that word to be popping up in kid conversations? And if you do have to address that topic at such a young age- how do you appropriately do such? Any ideas?