Wednesday, January 28, 2009

Tough Love


Ben is over 10 months now and I can count on one hand the number of nights he has slept through the night. (Hence the permanent dark circles anytime one sees me.) Part of the reason is cuz I am not willing to move James out of the crib, as he would never go to bed if I did, so Bens been in our bed. I havent wanted to fork out money on another crib cuz it just seems ridiculous, but i have been scanning craigslist for a while in hopes of a steal. Last weekend I finally found the steal I was hoping for- $20 for an excellent crib that retails for $120- seriously if thats not the steal of the month I dont know what is! So after the sanitization process was complete-(i am a germaphobe!) we decided to shake Bens world up. We have done the tough love approach for the older 3, but each time we do I just feel like the worst mother in the world. There is my precious baby screaming for me to come get them, but I let them exhaust themselves into sleep in hopes they learn to sleep on their own. And they do, but the whole time it rips my heart out. I hate it. But it really is for their own good. And mine too. So i do it. Last night Ben cried harder and longer than the previous nights so its not seeming to work as quickly as I hoped, but I am gonna try to continue cuz I dont think I can live much longer on two 3 hour stretches. Its a bugger.

6 comments:

Sabra said...

Maybe my story will inspire you...I let Maverick cry, cry, and cry some more, and he would never fall asleep. I'm talking an hour or longer. I just couldn't do it, so I put him back in the bed with us, and now he's almost four, and he's still my little bed buddy.

Keep it up, Kimmy! You are right. It's in everyone's best interest!

Julie said...

Hang in there! It ripped my heart out too but its so worth it--think continuous sleep. . . continuous sleep. . . continuous sleep (he'll enjoy it too).

Beverly said...

Kim you can do it!--well maybe. (Congratulations on your steal of a deal though.) Little Ben will survive! Give him an extra hug from us.

Deck The Halls-A Happy Valentines! said...

Good Luck Kimmy! I'm still working on Brianna sleeping in her own room! Brianna is still in Brandi's room! I've never had a problem with my babies sleeping in their crib--I've been lucky! I think the extra crib is going to be a new world for you! I admire that you have gone this long with no sleep! In the end, you and Ben will be much happier! You can do it! I look at it this way, your going to battle it now or later! It will be much easier to battle it now! I should have battled my battle with Brianna lone before now.

Cook Zoo said...

I know what you're going through. It's so heartbreaking. But hang in there. It really is for the best and he's almost past that peak age to make the transition, so don't give up. He'll be okay. Let us know how it goes!

Allison said...

HEY Kim! I'm sorry about Ben! It really rips your heart out to hear them scream! Hopefully it will work soon and you both will be happier and more well rested! I always had to think that I would be a much better mom if I could get more sleep, so I guess it is worth it, but it sure isn't easy!! Anyway, to respond to your blog comment, we are going next month to Jenna's baptism. I sure hope it works for you too! That would be awesome to see you all! It would really be worth the wait if we got to see you guys too!! You can see my blog about Trav's b-day. I just finished. It was a little anticlimatic because we were all really looking forward to the Utah visit, but it was nice. We can hardly wait to see you all! We love you!