Ben is over 10 months now and I can count on one hand the number of nights he has slept through the night. (Hence the permanent dark circles anytime one sees me.) Part of the reason is cuz I am not willing to move James out of the crib, as he would never go to bed if I did, so Bens been in our bed. I havent wanted to fork out money on another crib cuz it just seems ridiculous, but i have been scanning craigslist for a while in hopes of a steal. Last weekend I finally found the steal I was hoping for- $20 for an excellent crib that retails for $120- seriously if thats not the steal of the month I dont know what is! So after the sanitization process was complete-(i am a germaphobe!) we decided to shake Bens world up. We have done the tough love approach for the older 3, but each time we do I just feel like the worst mother in the world. There is my precious baby screaming for me to come get them, but I let them exhaust themselves into sleep in hopes they learn to sleep on their own. And they do, but the whole time it rips my heart out. I hate it. But it really is for their own good. And mine too. So i do it. Last night Ben cried harder and longer than the previous nights so its not seeming to work as quickly as I hoped, but I am gonna try to continue cuz I dont think I can live much longer on two 3 hour stretches. Its a bugger.